do you think that people who write the "what we want in an employee" section of the website feel good about themselves? are they self-actualized? imagine if your entire career is just crushing the souls of working class people. Also like, it's a lie. you don't have to be a team player at all. just let people hate their jobs, jesus fucking christ
me: my goal is not to become like a cis person
trans man/woman: this but the opposite xD
anyway can someone remind trans men and women that not everything trans-related is about them? could they not derail conversations about nonbinary people? Maybe shut up every once in a while? thank youuuu 💖✨
This has happened to me 3 times (THAT'S THREE TIMES) in recent memory. Twice when i was talking about how "born this way" narratives don't serve me, and just now when i said my transition goals DO NOT involve becoming like a cis person or being cis passing. (How would being cis passing even work when I'm genderqueer?!)
trying to talk about being nonbinary be like
NB: this is my experience blah blah
Trans man or woman: wow that doesn't match my experiences AT ALL so you're not really trans. In fact i don't think you even understand what you're talking about
NB: you're a shithead
t man/woman: ?!?!?! Why would you call me that just cuz I'm transgender, transphobe
i clicked on a cw that said 🍆 and it was a picture of some purple man with his dick out. every day this happens
coming out-related rant
I really hate this idea that queer people should come out if they can safely do so, or that coming out is the ultimate in queer self-realization or necessary for it. Maybe some of us find that kind of confessional self-disclosure distasteful, for cultural or personal reasons? Maybe we just want to *be*, and not have to mark ourselves as "other" to a socially constructed and violently enforced straight default?
thanks for listening everyone
re: transphobia, correction
I meant "dominate biological women" not donate
re: transphobia, slight positive
To my dad's credit, he saw that i was upset and asked Mom to stop saying such things to me. I was already leaving the room at that point. None of us brought it up again. This was years ago.
getting deep into transphobia again
I disengaged with that bullshit very fast. I don't need to know her exact feelings about People Like Me. That would just be emotional self harm and more fuel for me to hate her. I don't want to hate her.
Our relationship has been really rocky but has improved in recent years. We walk a fine line.
getting deep into transphobia now
My mom genuinely believes that trans women are men who want to donate Biological Women in school sports. She's a teacher and she finds all trans people to be a burden on the public education system for having the AUDACITY to demand to be treated like other students of their own gender.
Btw she works in the conservative south and has NEVER worked with a trans student. Her primary source on this issue is, i would guess, Facebook.
It would be really great if they could call me by my pronouns, but they don't even use my trans gf's pronouns. Nor do they call me by my real name. They're hopeless.
I bring home both men and women so it doesn't take a big brain to deduce I'm bisexual from that. but we are likely never going to have a conversation about it. They are more comfortable ignoring it. Whatever.
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