Mx Aria Stewart @aredridel@anarchism.space

@jellal Of course!

There's a reason I say that rule trumps others. But like? Adjusting your preferences? there's way more meaningful change to make in the world.

I actually worry far more about limiting relationships instead of working through issues much more than I think it matters in the abstract. So like, if there's conflict in a valuable relationship over it, maybe time to see if it can be worked on. I don't think there's a useful global ethical stance on it.

@jellal That said, we _do_ get ourselves wrapped around the axle, we have some weird and twisty and too-specific preferences sometimes and don't always give ourselves the freedom from our learned habits to really connect well with people. We over-emphasize certain parts, we get hung up.

But also? That's okay. It's not our job to be attracted to people out of duty. It's not a good way to fix the world.

@jellal So many layers to this.

The rule that has to trump them all is we get free choice in our sexuality, anything else leads to Dark Places. Nobody gets to say our preferences are wrong.

@anna Ain't no networking like queer networking.

We don't have families that share that trait with us usually. We're not born to queer parents with queer granparents, it doesn't work like race.

So we literally cannot find our people without networking. So we do.

Any new communication technology first gets adopted by queer folks.

@passcod So what you're saying is that ... we've F'ed up.

In the most cyberpunk fashion, one can just go _be_ a cyborg now. But because everything is caught up in a techno-utopian capitalist hellscape, you have to know a person or be able to work the system.

Or, in otherwords, we live in the grimdark meathook future we were warning us about.

@hirojin It's a tough problem-domain. Durability, quick application, releasability, breathability. Materials science is amazing but it's not (yet) magic.

@andi Hah. I've been thinking that'd be nice. The default UI for the dashboard is _so ugly_.

@hirojin Hehe. I'm usually totally here for the creepy factor of fictional cyborg tech. But, yeah, this is really non-invasive. Couldn't even feel the sensor wire being inserted (though I think I feel a vague ache where it is now)

My husband's allergic to the adhesive, so it's not perfect (what? machine-body interfaces have downsides?! :shook:)

But having a body that has NFC is such a weirdly cool concept. (I wish my phone didn't tend to break the sensors. I have to use a reader device.)

By which I mean, I've got a sensor embedded in my skin for a week, and I've got actual data coming to tell me how what I eat and how I move affects blood sugar.

@quephird hi!

It's so nice to have you back, friend!

So I'm a cyborg now.

@Thuslyandfurthermore Ads are the devil. :/ I hacked at firefox android until I got uBlock working just for this reason. It's so gross what ads do.

@quephird Ooh. I might have to go hunting!

@quephird Oh hey, those look really great. You ever see anything like that in plus sizes?