Mx Aria Stewart @aredridel@anarchism.space

Love how signing up to join a Matrix chat requires doing a task for Google. This is not the independent tech I asked for.

so where do the people who are playful with gender things hang out these days?

I'm so tired of it being a serious topic.

Architects who design libraries are sadists.

https://www.metropolismag.com/architecture/educational-architecture/cornell-fine-arts-library/

Me after rocking work this week

And of course when I say 'you' I mean 'us'. 'cause they're the same damn thing.

And if you missed 'how to make friends' in kindergarten, which I'm sure a lot of you did because your parents were authoritarian fuckos and twisted all the lessons, come see me and we'll talk.

Basically go make some friends without sticking to your own gender & race, you fools. And question your goddamn motives. Geezus. It's not that hard but you might have to dust off the skills you learned in kindergarten instead of resting on your laurels.

This means justice, solidarity, attempts to understand _and_ space to participate even when not understood.

Don't just make hypothetical people feel welcome.

Make the real people around you part of the crew.

If you say your workplace is disability-friendly, but what that means is "ADA compliant and has a wheelchair ramp", you're trying to serve an other, possibly unwillingly, instead of seeing who among you needs support now, in the specific ways they do, and working to build for them.

If the people you are claiming to support are "honored guests" and "outsiders to be made welcome", you're perpetuating the problem.

When you keep reinforcing the 'us' and 'them' instead of seeing and honoring the variety of 'us' there is, you're perpetuating the problem.

If you say you support LGBT folks but all your events are centered around gay men doing drag,

...you might be a bit ciscentric and misogynist

If you have posters for almost entirely white musicians and artists and businesses, and your only mention of black folks is anti-racism posters...

you might be a little bit racist.

Might have seen evidence of my people...