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I think for now being at similar levels of needing reminders / assistance and trying to provide that for each other is going well for us, at least, even if I think I sometimes over-remind her of things out of fear that I will forget them

@marco could you share what apps you use? I need reminders sometimes but dont have anyone to do the reminding... an app that nags might be just the thing^^ @ThisQueerBashesBack

@tether @ThisQueerBashesBack the app is for iOS and MacOS and is called Due. iOS app store link: Due — Erinnerungen + Timer von Due Apps LLPhttps://itunes.apple.com/de/app/due-erinnerungen-timer/id390017969?mt=8

@ThisQueerBashesBack In this situation, I just ended up holding him, looking him in the eye and saying "Hey, I'm here, and I know I need to rest, but I feel like I'm resting by the computer, I feel like I'm taking it slow, and not getting stressed out."

@maloki Yeah, I get a lot of that too, that I am resting but it doesn't look like resting. Like, for me, working on a sewing or other craft project that I know how to do is resting, but learning a new one is not. So it gets to be somewhat difficult for my partner to tell how I'm feeling.
And we definitely do the checking-in, but sometimes it feels like Too Much Asking. And then I feel bad that I'm being grumpy at him for trying to help.